Right now I have a nightmare upstairs neighbor. The kind that you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy. She's up all night and sleeps all day, which would be fine if she were quiet about it but unfortunately she's done so many drugs that she's permanently out to lunch. With that brings loud crashing, banging, thrashing and screaming. Some nights this goes on until 3am which doesn't bode well for people who like to rise early and actually have day jobs = me and the rest of my neighbors!
The girl upstairs doesn't have a job. She doesn't have to. Her mother supports her and she's almost 40 years old. At first one would be tempted to think - wouldn't that be nice? I wish I could stay home all day, never have to work, have pizza and alcohol delivered regularly and.... what? Because for me, that's where the fantasy comes to a screeching halt.
You see, I'm a do-er. I've always been a do-er, often times with several items/ideas/businesses on my plate. The other day I heard someone in a group setting say that he's been staying in bed all day watching TV, for weeks on end. A friend of mine turned to me and said "have you ever done that?" and I said "hell no, you?" And she replied "no way, who has time?"
Now I'm not saying that people don't get depressed and stay in bed because that's a horrible thing. I'm talking about people who have choices and choose to do nothing. And that's fine, for them. It totally sounds like I'm judging but I'm not, I may even be a tad envious because that is NOT me. I go, go, go and then I go some more. And I LOVE it!!
There are so many ideas that need to be written or recorded and then acted upon. Creating is so much fun! And during the down time there is reading or watching Game of Thrones, of course! But not all day, every day. It's fascinating that some people's happy place (laying in bed watching TV all day) is another person's nightmare. I'm sure that my life - go, go, go - do, do, do - would be someone else's nightmare. I'm sharing this because I think the most important thing is to do what makes you happy - or as my friend Ted says - do what lights you up (and I'll add - as long as you're not hurting anyone else in the process). You see, the girl upstairs IS hurting other people. She hurts me and all my neighbors - they can hear her partying and screaming obscenities an entire block away until after 3am.
There are so many differences between all of us and we're trying to survive this insane ride together. To make some kind of sense about the craziness of it all. The one thing I like to remind myself if that no one, no matter how intelligent or spiritual they are, has all the answers for everyone. It's up to each one of us to make our own way, the best we can. And who am I to say or think that the nightmare neighbor upstairs is living a wasted life? I know it's one I don't want to live myself and I don't have to. I wish she would keep her noise to a minimum but I can't control her. All I can do is keep calling the cops on her and hope that some day things will change, which is a sure bet because the only constant in life is that everything changes eventually. I also hope that she doesn't kill herself (or anyone else) in the meantime.
Author Chloe Adler
Here are some musings - Nothing fancy - no outline and no editor - just some stream of consciousness. You want to read my books? :)