I like to think I can have it all but there are only so many hours in a day. Prioritizing is key.
Day job = food, a place to live, paying my editor, travel, exercise.
Writing = sanity, challenge, creativity, insight.
Exercise - sanity and fun.
But none of those things equal living IMO. Living is when I spend time with loved ones and animals. Living is traveling and learning new things. Living is laughing at someone's joke, laughing at my own mistakes, laughing into the wind, laughing with friends... laughter.
Living is cuddling my SO, dog and cat. Living is sleeping in on a weekend morning, meditating when the sun comes up, walking my dog, cooking, eating delicious food, rearranging the house, planning a trip, sightseeing, spending time on the water, spending time with kids, hiking, reading, listening to music, spending a lot of time with friends, watching GoT or other great shows and movies, playing video games...
And yet everything else is needed in order to live. Without all of it, working together to form one cohesive experience that drives me forward, to achieve - there would be nothing.
Without the day job I wouldn't be able to publish books. If I didn't publish books my creativity would stagnate. If I didn't exercise I couldn't remain sane. If I didn't live I wouldn't have fun. They work symbiotically - one flowing into and becoming the next or one needing the other. This is a full life, a life I enjoy, a life I can sink my teeth into.
Every few days I check in with myself and ask - are you enjoying your life? Do you still love what you do? Do you still love your day job? Do you still love writing? Your dog? Your SO? Your house? The state you live in? Your car? Your furniture? etc. and if there's something that I can say "nope, don't love that right now" I move to change it - make it loveable once again.
Most recently it was my furniture. I had the same furniture in the same place since I moved into where I'm living now, 6 years ago. But my tastes have changed. I no longer like being surrounded by dark wood and endless pieces of crap I don't need. I went on craigslist and refurnished my house for a very minimal amount. I don't have a big house! But more than getting new/used furniture - I am getting rid of stuff. Clearing the clutter to make room for spaciousness because that's what I need right now.
I encourage you to ask yourself these questions or similar ones. Are you happy with XYZ? If not, what will make you happy? And then seek to achieve that because this life is short and we deserve to be as happy as we possibly can while we're here!
Author Chloe Adler
Here are some musings - Nothing fancy - no outline and no editor - just some stream of consciousness. You want to read my books? :)